Thursday, August 07, 2008

I'm an FOJ (Friend of Jefferson)

Yikes. I copied this from Viviane's Sex Carnival. Jefferson could use your help:

An important member of the sex-positive community urgently needs our help.

Jefferson—blogger, educator, and dear friend to so many of us—is at this moment fighting a court battle with his ex-wife, who is seeking full custody of their three children.

Jefferson’s love for his children has been well-documented on his blog One Life, Take Two for years. His ex-wife has stated in court that he is a “great” father who loves his children.

However, among her claims is that his bisexuality makes him an unfit parent.

Jefferson needs our help now. As a writer, his resources are limited. The costs of fighting this case are mounting quickly—and will certainly run into the tens of thousands of dollars.
As of today, there is an urgent and immediate need for at least $20,000 to cover costs associated with attorney fees and those of the law guardian who has been appointed to represent the children.
If he is unable to pay these fees by August 11, he will be forced to relinquish custody of his children.

This case is of concern to anyone whose sexuality does not fit the standard mold—because it could happen to you. This case is of concern to all writers, because Jefferson’s blog is being used as evidence against him—and that could have repercussions for our First Amendment rights.
Here’s how to help:
Make an ANONYMOUS, TAX-DEDUCTIBLE contribution to Jefferson’s legal defense by visiting the Sexual Freedom Defense and Education Fund at:

There you will find out how to donate to Jefferson’s Defense Fund via PayPal or if you prefer, check or money order.
Please note that you MUST mention that your donation be used for the JEFFERSON LEGAL DEFENSE FUND.

In the coming days, will be relaunched with information about Jefferson’s ongoing case. Be sure to visit his blog for updates. In the meantime, you can contact Jefferson directly at

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Anonymous said...

when his kids were away, wasn't he using their bedrooms for orgies though?

Lily said...

The bed linens are always cleaned!I see your point, but Jefferson's a practical man, and his children sleep in clean beds.

Anonymous said...

Unless he used rubber sheets, they weren't clean enough. Eeeew and Yuk!

Also, I always had the clear impression from reading his blog that he had an actual day job, and supported his kids equally with his ex. The alcoholism claims, I tend to discount-- but the non-working revelation makes me entirely unsympathetic.

Lily said...

He's a freelancer, and works regularly, as far as I know.

Perhaps you'd prefer to discuss this with Jefferson over at
I've also enumerated (somewhat confusingly!) my opinions on this over at (comment #77, if you're interested).